Free Advice to Save Your Marriage

This blog is dedicated to all married couples whose marriages are going through rough times. You may feel like giving up and getting a divorce...DO NOT DO IT! All hope is NOT lost. I can help you save your marriage!

Want some free advice to save your marriage? Take it from me. As a minister and counselor, I have advised countless couples whose marriages were on the rocks. The big picture is that to save your marriage YOU must change first before expecting your spouse to change. Too many spouses in a marriage demand their rights. And when these rights are not given, they get angry and continue to demand to have things their own way.

My general advice to all couples is to give up your individual rights for the sake of your spouse. That is the first step towards personal change. When your spouse can see the changes in you, he or she will begin to change, too. Then and only then can there be any hope of saving your marriage.

What are the root causes of conflicts, tensions, arguments, misunderstandings, fights and the like between couples? Whatever causes you can think of, they all boil down to only one thing – Unfulfilled Expectations.

You expect your spouse to act or speak a certain way or do something for you or give you what you want or know what to do without you saying it or understand how you feel etc. When one spouse expects something of the other and that expectation is not met, miscommunication occurs. This miscommunication leads to misunderstanding which in turn leads to something going wrong. When something goes wrong, tensions arise which leads to confrontations, conflicts, arguments, quarrels and fights between the two of you.

So the important key to saving your marriage is to discern all areas of unfulfilled expectations that each of you have towards the other. Open the channels of communication. Talk it through, express you thoughts and feelings towards each other. Ask one another what each expects of the other in any given area of your marriage.

When these expectations are brought to light, be willing to CHANGE yourself for the sake of your marriage. When you change, your spouse will change, too. That is the surest way to save your marriage.